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The White Stuff: Whiting Wongs & Wonging Whites
hey're our neighbors, buddies, allies, enemies, clients, bosses, employees, lovers and spouses. Many of us have more daily contact with Whites than with other Asians. Consequently, we often feel we know them better than they can ever know us. Maybe that's at the heart of our frustration as Asian Americans. They are as ubiquitous and pervasive as the air we breath while to them it seems we are eternal curiosities, outsiders, exotics.
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And so we sometimes find ourselves lashing out with nasty generalizations about the people we blame for all that seems wrong with American society and, more specifically, our place in it. They are ignorant, shallow, boorish, smelly, sneaky, treacherous, malicious, dumb, weird -- in short, all the labels we feel have been so unfairly slapped on us.
But even as we hurl such epithets we cannot forget the countless acts of kindness, warmth, generosity, friendship, passion and love that we have enjoyed from these very same people. As our anger and frustration subside, we recognize that our fates are inextricably intertwined, not merely in sharing a world, a nation, a society, an economy, a culture -- but often in sharing even our most intimate lives. One in five of today's Asian American marriages are to Whites. And contrary to the imbalance of the past, the ratio of new AM/WF marriages to new AF/WM marriages is steadily approaching unity.
So we naturally have a strong interest in decoding the other side of the equation. Understanding is a two-way street. Fortunately, there are Whites who have enough interest in us as individuals to share their perspectives on us and on their interactions with us. This page is for those who -- as corny as it may sound -- have chosen to serve as bridges.
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Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)
Ciao, maxdacat,
You're one lucky b*****d, to be doing all that travelling! I am green with envy. What work do you do? I'm a law student (that's why i'm so heartless). Gotta cram for my International Human Rights exam now (talk about a *really* embarrassing subject to fail!)
ducksoup,
Oki, i'll go to the Technologies board where they're all talking about sex :)
Btw, why 'ducksoup'? First Freud, and now another quack :) Hee hee just kidding...
krasavitsa
Friday, June 07, 2002 at 02:24:56 (PDT)
"see the description ? its to learn about understanding the white view, says so right in there. whites who want to talk about their views and help us get to know them.
go to the right message board."
The "white stuff" refers to the issue of "whiting wongs and wonging whites." It appears to me that the title is ambiguous: it could mean this site is for "wonging whites" to communicate their perspective OR it could be ABOUT the topic of "whites" who are connected to the Asian and Asian American community, or the topic of whites committing "wrongs."
Hence, krasavitsa, if she has a relevant comment on these topics articulated in the title, is just as welcome as you, numbskullsoup.
rabbitsoup
Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 19:22:55 (PDT)
ducksoup-
Good point about getting back to the point.
I am a WF dating an AM. We've been dating for years, and sometimes I still feel like I have almost no understanding of Asian culture. I wish someone could just explain the entire thing to me! There are just so many cultural differences, different ways of thinking, where are we to begin in this bridge building of ours?
question
Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 14:05:01 (PDT)
krasavitsa your postings don't really belong in this forum. its for whites to talk about their feelings for asians. it aint for you to come on talking about white guys and all. go to af/wm for that.
So we naturally have a strong interest in decoding the other side of the equation. Understanding is a two-way street. Fortunately, there are Whites who have enough interest in us as individuals to share their perspectives on us and on their interactions with us. This page is for those who -- as corny as it may sound -- have chosen to serve as bridges.
see the description ? its to learn about understanding the white view, says so right in there. whites who want to talk about their views and help us get to know them.
go to the right message board.
ducksoup
Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 08:36:19 (PDT)
Krasavista,
Nice to hear back from you so soon....i'm actually based in London :( but travel around lots :).....(will be going to the US in August)...right now i'm in Portugal and will be going to italy soon....for work mind you...which is what i should be doing instead of posting on Goldsea!.....i guess i left Oz because i wanted a change and the chance to earn a currency that is actually worth something (poor pacific peso!)....anyway i realy miss home....the food (i am having yum cha withdrawal), climate, relaxed people, my cat etc....so what are you studying?....and good luck anyway.
maxdacat
Wednesday, June 05, 2002 at 03:49:26 (PDT)
Hi maxdacat,
You're funny :) How come you left the big island? What American State do you live in? How does it compare to Oz?
I won't be writing much for a while because it's exam time of year :P
krasavitsa
Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 06:45:46 (PDT)
Dr Freud:
I don't need to know what your ethnicity, motives or "needs" are to interpret your postings, silly. You alone made the assumption that one has be an Anglo-Aussie in order to defend them!
You really are obessessed with this fantasy that i lack "self-worth" and that i "hate" this group of men, aren't you? Why, does it alleviate your (increasingly apparent) insecurities to read this into my postings?
Only insecure, manipulative freaks go out of their way to make unsolicited
"psychoanalyses" of other people based on their conversations. If you "don't need to pschobabble", then don't! If what you asserted were "pretty evident", you wouldn't need to be so insistent upon it then, would you?
You think i'm trying to intimidate you?
Ooh, now we're beginning to see where all this is coming from. Um... how often do you feel intimidated by anonymous internet postings...?
krasavitsa
Monday, June 03, 2002 at 20:13:53 (PDT)
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