What Men Want on a First Date | Asian American Poll

WHAT MEN WANT ON A FIRST DATE
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 04:19:44 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a man, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 45%
Picnic in the Country | 7%
Brunch and Tennis | 2%
Dinner and Movie | 46%

Assuming you are a man, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Wears something extra nice | 39%
Arrives precisely on time | 9%
Compliments your appearance | 1%
Invites you up for coffee | 51%

Assuming you are a man, what's the worst mistake a girl can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 10%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 81%
Hogging the conversation | 4%
Brushing off your sexual advance | 5%

This poll is closed to new input.
Comments posted during the past year remain available for browsing.
To vote on and continue discussions on this and related topics, check out our new Interactive Area .

CONTACT US | ADVERTISING INFO

© 1996-2009 GoldSea
No part of the contents of this site may be reproduced without prior written permission.

WHAT YOU SAY

[This page is closed to new input. Vote and continue this and related discussions at the new Interactive Area. --Ed.]

confused viet-am male

i think that means "go away"
fil guy wit chinese gf Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 00:04:04 (PST)

Confused Viet Dude:

Tso ai = to Make Love or F***, literally to "do love"
Mandarin Speaker Wednesday, December 05, 2001 at 09:13:49 (PST)

I was in Korea when I met up with a childhood/family friend whom I had not seen in 15 years or so. (She lived in the U.S. and moved to Korea.) I paid her family a visit and after dinner at their place, she asked if I wanted to go out. We went to a jazz club. I guess it was the wine, music, and typical dark jazz club mood because we found ourselves slowly kissing each other at our table. My God, that was perfect. I guess 15 years made our hearts grow much fonder.
KAM Sunday, December 02, 2001 at 23:48:50 (PST)

Dude,

Kobe Tai is a BOY with airbags attatched to his chest. Gross! My 8 year old BROTHER has more curves than that termite!
This Asian man's gotta have curves Thursday, November 29, 2001 at 21:29:27 (PST)

What does "tso ai" mean?
Confused Viet-Am Male Wednesday, November 28, 2001 at 13:03:55 (PST)

Best Date is one that ends with Three Things which in Mandarin are:

Tso Ai
Tso Ai
and
Tso Ai!!!
Horny Asian Dude Monday, November 26, 2001 at 11:48:28 (PST)

watching Kobe Tai flicks for a few hours. Then copying what was watched.
gordon Friday, November 23, 2001 at 19:31:03 (PST)

To Anonymous Male,
Dear Sir,
In your post, dated 19 Nov 01, you said that you had figured out how to spot a "professional dater".
Will you please share this knowledge? I have yet to figure this one out.
Thank you from Dallas TX.
Tx Tuesday, November 20, 2001 at 14:57:06 (PST)

There needs to be some kind of published "rules" with regards to paying. I know that they may be some etiquette guidelines from "Miss Manners" and those of her ilk, but I dont' recall them off the top of my head.

Since I am married it's easier. One of us will pick up the tab--sometimes me, sometimes her but we don't keep track of it. However, when I was single, it was confusing at first. After a few years, I set these rules of thumb:

With Female Friends: Separate checks or if one picks up the tab, the other picks up the tab next time.

Dates/Relationships: I usually picked up the tab unless the woman was adamant about splitting or she asked me out and stated specifically "It's my treat." I ended up picking up the tab 75% of the time, but I had no problem with it. There was no ethnic pattern to any of it either.

Lastly, it would be a good idea for you single guys to learn to read women and figure out those who are dating you as "professional daters"--those women who want three nice dinners and then drop you. I learned how to spot them on the first date so that the most I was out was 40 bucks--the cost of dinner and a movie. As opposed to about $200 when you get to the third date--the date when "things happen" if they're ever going to happen at all.
Anonymous Male Monday, November 19, 2001 at 05:53:51 (PST)

NEWEST COMMENTS | EARLIER COMMENTS