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ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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To Truth 444:
Thank-u for sharing your experience, it's greatly appreciated. U definitly showed us the benefits that come from following your heart...not convention. I believe u were very lucky to have met such a good man who taught u that love finds u when u least expect it. I'm very sorry that your time together was so short. I wish u the best in the future :)
Not really pissed off anymore:
Best of luck to u too!
sunflower child
Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 11:28:36 (PDT)
Truth 444,
So sorry about your loss. I sometimes find myself thinking about how it would feel to lose the man that I love. Sometimes, if he's working late, and I don't hear from him, I get worried. Seems I'm often worried about something bad happening to him.
I would miss his smile, his touch, his security, our friendship, our intimacy; I would mess everything about him. I don't know how I would feel about finding another true love. As you see, this topic has nothing to do with race; just how to deal with the loss of a loved one.
Sian BlasianLove@jazzandjava.com
Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 10:16:21 (PDT)
My family has a thing about blending. I really really hate it. They are so stuck up and snobby! I read on here before some comments from people saying that some light skinned blacks, and mixed people have an arrogant attitude? This is exactly how my family is. I am ashamed of how they behave and act. They think they are so much. My husband and I divorced 4 years ago, and we had a child together. My parents did not want me to divorce him, because we appeared to blend so well. When I say blend I mean: he had very light skin, light eyes and hair(a "a very nice straight texture)-as they put it.
He went to my dad's college, pledged for the same fraternity, and he is an engineer like my dad. Yet he was domineering, selfish, a perfectionist and unfaithful. I told my mother about this, and she told me to "suck it in and bear it"
"There are no such thing as divorce in our family, dear" she said.
I have three sisters and two older brothers. My sisters all married husbands who are engineers (except for Elizabeth who married a jewish lawyer)
All their husbands look like what I described above, and they all went to the same college as my dad, and they all have 2 children (my brother doesn't have kids, and I only have 1 son) My mom and dad are really proud of them all. To make this long story short, I met a man from Japan, 4 years after my divorce. We fell in love, and have been together for almost 2 years now. My parents are telling me that he doesn't blend with us and I need to drop him. He has dark hair, dark eyes and hes asian, he went to a different college than my dad, he didn't pledge for a fraternity, and hes a teacher. My mom and dad make me sick. Its like they don't even know who they are. With their attitude, you would think they want to see me with a white man right? Well my dad said he'd rather see me with a white man than with my asian boyfriend. I got a job offer somewhere else and decided to take it. It is located much closer to my boyfriend, and far away from my family. My dad said I will be a complete failure without him. I guess I will have to prove him and the rest of the family wrong. I get phone calls from time to time from mom crying about how selfish I am.
Is anyone on here familiar with that passing thing? My parents are doing that. I even think my great grandparents and on down have been doing it. I think its stupid. You cannot live a lie forever. The truth always comes out eventually. Don't you agree? People ask me about my family, I am ashamed of them. I don't even tell them about how they are. Its embarrassing. My boyfriend wants to meet them. I don't want him to ever meet them, I am too embarrassed at the way they bahave and think.
Emily C.W. family suxxx!!!
Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 05:44:46 (PDT)
"Since your family owns so many resteraunts i wouldn't try to date every bf that you meet because if you do you will most likely end up with a lazy one" (Be Careful)
hmmmm...so your view is that black females are mostly lazy? Is this how you feel about other ethnicities as well? Or is it only black females? This statement is a racist statement. Congraduations on being MR./MRS.BIGOT#1
!)If you are a black female, then you have self esteem issues about your race. Oreo cookie.
2)If you are an asian male, you sound whitewahed and racist. lemon creme cookie
3)if you are a white male/or female then everyone expects you to say something this ignorant and racist. You showing your true colors. A true saltine.
4)If you are an asian female then, you should be ashamed alltogether.tsk tsk
This comment was completely unecessary and fowl. It was meant to be nasty. Who would make such a statement, knowing there are black females that frequent this poll?
its funny
Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 02:30:04 (PDT)
Pissed Off,
Tea is right, you just might meet the girl you're looking for on this forum or at least good friends. You sound pretty cool... down to earth. Where are you from? e-mail me =)
Cali Princess KaliDreamxangel@aol.com
Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 22:28:33 (PDT)
well i just like to say is that don't u think that the black music now a days kinda putting the black women down ...with wearing less cloths and more skin expose..and with that showing butt moving thing...just asking hope it's not offensive to anyone...
mixed malay&chinese guy
Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 20:01:28 (PDT)
Truth444,
Your story is quiet touching. It amost sounds like Romeo and Juliet. And I am very sorry that you have to go through a horrible tragedy. It must have been depressing to lose someone you loved. From reading you story, I can almost feel the pain your going through. But to have it happen to you and seeing the situation first hand must be more painful. So I hope you have lots of luck in dealing with your pain. Hopefully there will be some good that can come in your way to help you deal with all these emotion.
DoubleD (AM)
Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 18:43:18 (PDT)
liquid sky and to everyone else,
I hope you all enjoy the movie (Catfish in Black Bean Sauce) as much as I did.
CuteChicagoGirl and to everyone else again, The movie really did bring out a lot of concerns on both sides. It was enlightening, humourous, cute, and romantic. After seeing that movie, it helped to make me a little bit braver. I just wish I could bring up the official website, but it's not there anymore. I also wish I could find out more about Chi Muoi Lo. At least find an official website so that I could email him personally and tell him just how much I loved the movie and how inspiring it was for all of us in interracial relationships, especially black women and Asian men. Anyway, for those of you that haven't seen it, and really want to see a movie that actually portrays an Asian man and black woman in love and trying to make it work, Catfish in Black Bean Sauce is the movie for you. Just thought I'd drop you all a line. Have a great week!
Lady Kagero ladykagero@collegeclub.com
Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 14:54:25 (PDT)
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