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Ethiopian women are okay. I think African American women are way prettier. They have more of a variety and range in skin tones, that are so incredibly beautiful. Don't get me wrong. I have seen some really beautiful Africans. But African American women? There is no comparison, they are just too lovely.
kano
Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 07:18:07 (PDT)
How do the Asian Men view women with big breasts? I am not trying to be nasty or anything. I am just curious thats all. Its not something to just approach someone about, it would be inappropriate and rude.
Are big breasts an attractive thing to most of them? Or is it considered sloppy?
Winnie
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 16:47:49 (PDT)
Lamoire,
As a BW, you know that when some situations cause you to get indignant, that neck starts popping and your "ethnicity" comes out full steam ahead. All you can say is BEWARE!! ;)
I would definitely advise all BW against dating AM who make it a point from the start that they intend to make you into a "lady." I am sure he would not dare suggest something so obsurd to a WF or AF.
Cinnamon
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 13:21:55 (PDT)
I would like to know if there are parents here who have a child(ren)
that are 9-12yrs. of age. I found a note that a child from my
daughters school wrote to her." In the note, the little black girl was
highly upset that my daughter would always mention her Asian heritage.
She went on to say that everytime my daughter(Teza.), would discuss
who/where her father was from ,it made her feel as though Teza felt
she was better than her." She went on to say that she had never meet a
"white person" and she was glad that Teza did talk to her.
There were a few more things mentioned but, I would like to know if
any of you guys have gone through this and how did you handle it?
We have always taught our children to be proud of who they are. My
daughter is not a "snooty" child and she is very out-going. I feel as
though her class mate may have some jealousy towards her because she
speaks highly of her father, both of us are active in the school, so
maybe that was it. Whatever the reason is, I absolutely refuse to make
my child deny her father just so she can make a few kids happy. We've
had a simular occurance years ago, when the children argued my child
down as to why her mother wasn't dark? She would cry when they called
me a "white lady"(my hue is golden not peachy) Hmmm, mind you these
children were flunking in school and many were held back. I often
wondered what do those children parents discuss in front of those kids
to make them so angry towards those who aren't their hue?
Apparently, the situation had gotten a little out of hand, because
when I picked up my children from school a few weeks ago, Teza got
into the truck and stated "Mom, today Ms*** called me in front of the
class and asked me to 1. Who is my father? Where's he from? and 2. Who
is my mother ? and where is she from? The teacher went on to explain
to the class that different races do marry and....I must say that I
was happy with the way the teacher explained to the students about
Inter-race relations.:) Hopefully, the children will have a better
understanding of race relations.
If some of you Blasian adults went through this, I would like to hear
your thoughts and ideas as well.
Peace and Happiness group.yahoo.com/groups/drgnzlairII
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 13:06:40 (PDT)
Asian Athlete,
Are you referring to the football programs that many of the high school and colleges offer? Where did you play ball?
LadyK ladykagero@collegeclub.com
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 12:11:18 (PDT)
Cinnamon- :o)
What do you mean by ethnic gestures? When it comes to every culture, every one of them have certain gestures that are used to express themselves. I assume you are referring to the negative ones, right? If thats the case then I completely understand. Noone is attracted to negative attitudes and behaviors. Its interesting how black and hispanic cultures are the only ones mostly ($$Advertised widely$$) & associated with negative gestures and stereotypes. And other cultures you don't really hear too much about really. My Chinese boyfriend said there are also some negative "ethnic gestures" also associated within asian cultures as well. I wasn't really aware of this, especially in detail
Because you don't really hear about this sort of thing. Wow.
BooBooKitten
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 09:24:47 (PDT)
Cinnamon- :o)
What do you mean by ethnic gestures? When it comes to every culture, every one of them have certain gestures that are used to express themselves. I assume you are referring to the negative ones, right? If thats the case then I completely understand. No one is attracted to negative attitudes and behaviors. Its interesting how black and hispanic cultures are the only ones mostly ($$Advertised widely$$) & associated with negative gestures and stereotypes. And other cultures you don't really hear too much about really. My Chinese boyfriend said there some negative "ethnic gestures" also associated within asian cultures as well. I wasn't really aware of this, especially in detail
Because you don't really hear about this sort of thing. Wow.
BooBooKitten
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 09:23:35 (PDT)
Haven't posted here for a while, but I thought I'd give my two-yen worth after reading some of these comments.
I'm going to make my point early: There are PLENTY of Asian men out there who are interested in Black women. Just because you don't see it on TV doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
First of all, some of you beautiful ladies MUST have pride in yourselves and your people. That will attract any man of any race to you. Saying other black women have somehow ruined your chances for dating an Asian man because they act too 'ghetto' or too 'ethnic' is NOT going to make the boys come running to you any faster. And although I can't get into this discussion at length, the 'n-word' DOES reference a specific group of people. When that word is used, I do not automatically think of a white person. This word has been and always will be used to degredate and to refer to false characteristics associated with African Americans first and second, it is used to refer to others who imitate that false behavior.
I will not lie. Being on the outside looking in, I can see that the media has caused a lot of damage to the image of black women. I am not very familiar with the term 'too ethnic' (too black?), but I think that what turns some of these well-to-do black men off is simply feeling disrespected as a human being. (Can you blame him?) Of course we are feminine, but the media has us brainwashed into thinking we are not. I mean, Asian men have the reverse problem, the media portrays them as feminine.
Second, I have found that you must be at the right place at the right time. Period. In the US, there weren't too many Asians where I lived, but now I live in Japan, so obviously it's going to be different. Here, I have experienced days where I couldn't walk down the street without a Japanese guy trying to ask me for my phone number or inviting me out for a cup of coffee. I think Asian men and Black women can't meet each other because we are so separated from each other.
The most important thing is to be yourself and love yourself. Why in the world would you want to pursue a man you have to perform for? The charades will get old really quick and if he doesn't like what he sees underneath, the relationship won't last. If you are naturally loud, then continue to be loud. If you are an opinionated person, don't stop giving your two-(yen) worth. If you love your tightly curled hair, DO NOT straighten it just to get a man--many guys love that look. You have to get a man who is willing to see and love you--all of you.
I am naturally very shy and quiet and the man I am seeing right now knows that. When I started to get loud with him, he cut in and basically said, "Don't act like that. That's not the real you." It shut me up mostly because he was telling me the truth.
And just as you must be confident in yourself, you must find a man who is confident in himself. If he is letting media images of beauty control his mind, then why bother with him? There are plenty of better, eligible men who will not let their preferences be shaped by the TV.
Joy
Saturday, June 22, 2002 at 00:28:14 (PDT)
I think Asian Man want a women who truly love them. Asian Man like them sort of curvy but not fatso. At least that is what I have noticed. I move here from Haiti and I notice. It is interesting to me. Weight is an issue or is not an issue?
marietta :)
Friday, June 21, 2002 at 16:38:36 (PDT)
Asian Athlete...just read your post. Thanks for the reply and the encouragement. I'm glad to get some feedback from an Asian guy. There seems to be more females on these posts than men! :-) Take care!!
CaliGirl
Friday, June 21, 2002 at 13:35:21 (PDT)
Cinnamon,
What are "ethnic" gestures?
Lamoire
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 20:15:57 (PDT)
Caligirl,
Funny... I live in California too. =) I am of Korean descent. I'm not the tallest one in my family though, my little brother Carl is 6'2" and plays guard in his highschool basketball team. He's really good. But I tend to be stronger than he is, since he is tall and lanky. He's always good for a scrimmage or two though.. =)
btw, good idea with being more encouraging with Asian guys that are shy... you are on the right way, my girl. I dated a half Eithiopian (her dad's side) and half white girl from
the East Coast, but we broke up because I wasn't sure if I wanted to spend the summer apart (I spend my summers in L.A.). She was gorgeous, and she was the one that really started to make me notice black women. Before then I had only dated mostly Asian and some white girls. Man, I'm not sure if I made a mistake or not, but things happen for a reason. Good luck, Caligirl.
Cinnamon,
I must say that I have to agree -- I am aware of the great variation in African genepools. It is obvious, as Asia has a hugely differing set of phenotypes. In my haste, I had neglected to mention those important facts. In the Cote D'Ivore(West Africa) , you have very dark and thin Africans, as well as Pygmies, who stand no taller than 4'8" inches. Then you have the Massai of Kenya (eastern Africans) , who average about 6'2"~6'3" but are VERY thin and lanky. Then you have people of NorthEastern Africa such as the Ertrieans and Eithopians, who have significant amounts of Middle Eastern (Arab/Semitic) blood in them, hence their stockier builds and sharper facial features. Then you have The Central/Central-West Africans who are tall (though not as tall as people like the Massai) and have significant upper body mass, such as the Nigerians. I could go on and on.... good day, ladies.
Lady K,
I am a health nut. I used to play ball. So naturally I know a little about Mississipi... they have a great football program! Take care.
Asian Athlete
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 14:37:22 (PDT)
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